5 Tips for modern couples
How do couples stay in love?
In a world where divorce rates are only getting higher, how do those happy couples do it? We have compiled a list of our top 5 favourite tips for keeping that flame alive.
The truth is, it doesn't have to be some big, extravagant expression of devotion but instead, changing our habits to ensure the relationship is filled with laughter and conversation.
1. Put aside technology
This may seem like an obvious one, but it is definitely the most important. Since the development of technology relationships have been thrown into turmoil because of the major distraction it causes in our daily lives. Not only do we find ourselves ogling our notifications, but we find it almost impossible to sit and relax without being visually stimulated. Make sure you set aside your phone or laptop every evening and spend quality time with each other. Maybe this means going for a walk, watching a movie together or cooking dinner. Whatever you can to ensure that you are 100% focused on quality couple time.
2. Be realistic
Have you ever heard anyone refer to the “love bubble” at the start of a new relationship? That infatuation may last anywhere from 6 months onwards. The key to overcoming this stage is in understanding that it won’t last forever – and that is okay! Perhaps you find yourselves less obsessed with calling constantly or missing them less when you spend some time apart, that doesn’t have to mean the love has fizzled out! A long-term relationship will develop deeper, richer emotions that replace that crazy obsession, so don’t worry if you don’t constantly live in each other’s pockets!
3. Things may change
There is always that one thing that attracts us to our partner that has us falling head over heels. If you have a think about it, however, that one stand out thing that you found attractive is no longer the same. This is because, as your relationship grows, as does your preferences. This doesn’t mean you and your partner are no longer compatible, it means that you are both exploring new things about each other that make you fall more in love each day. Try and focus on those positive aspects of their character or appearance and appreciate the things that make the two of you different.
4. Communication is key
This links in with our first tip about technology. In an era where we focus on texting, emailing and video calls it is easy to forget what the art of conversation entails. When finding yourself frustrated with an issue remember to have a calm, collected conversation with your other half rather than ignoring the situation altogether. You are much more likely to achieve a compromise or solution that works for you both via friendly chat than bitter resentment. It isn’t all about when you have a disagreement though, remember to drop your partner a compliment or a random line of affection to boost their mood, and yours!
5. Laughter is the best medicine
Need I say more? When we laugh it decreases stress hormones and releases feel-good chemicals, known as endorphins. Humour is a great way to eliminate tension and awkwardness and best of all, it costs nothing! Just by hearing a person laugh, you tend to find yourself in a better mood helping your relationship to thrive and survive the most difficult of situations. Well timed banter or a private joke shared between the two of you can actually make you feel closer as a couple. It’s sort of like having your own secret language that only the two of you understand. It might sound a little weird, but let’s be honest it feels totally sweet and romantic.
Robert A. Heinlein